Books for fathers indoctrinating their children in morals and virtues

Disclaimer: While I think the following advice is sensible, it’s written in the absence of parenting experience.

A dad’s responsibilities to his children, in order of importance, are:

1. Prevent catastrophic outcomes of all sorts, ranked by severity and probability
2. Demonstrate a healthy model for how a man ought to act toward his wife
3. Demonstrate a more general model of masculine virtues
4. Indoctrinate the children with morals and virtues (this includes explicitly prescribing the indoctrination your wife is giving them, and verifying she’s done so by talking to them)

Edit: A big one I forgot is choosing your children’s peer group so they’ll make friends from a pre-selected pool of kids, so you don’t have to constantly select out bad apples.

I can argue for the ordering of these if need be. This post provides reference material for the latter.

Morality has three forms, again in order of importance:

1. God’s approval
2. One’s approval of oneself
3. The approval of other people

Virtue, in the original sense, means high general ability to get what you want (virtus means “strength”), and corresponds to having many of the things that the best people have. A more modern definition would be living in accordance with your ideal self-concept, or “the best conceivable future version of your current self”. The most important virtues that can be trained (i.e. not IQ) are:

1. Attitude
2. Judgment
3. Cognitive empathy (particularly self-knowledge)
4. Etiquette (i.e. the study of situationally appropriate behavior)
5. Conscientiousness
6. Rigor

Here are the top books I’d pick to read to your children to accomplish as much in these categories as possible in the least amount of time:

1. The Bible (focusing on age and temperament-appropriate sections)
2. The Chronicles of Narnia
3. Lord of the Rings
4. Pilgrim’s Progress (not the sequel, which is poor)
5. Maximum Achievement
6. The Champion’s Mind (I’ve heard that Mindset by Carol Dweck is also good for this but I haven’t read it)
7. How to Win Friends and Influence People

If you’re looking for more, here are the categories I’d recommend drawing from:

Fairly tales, particularly dark fantasy (e.g. Grimm’s, Lovecraft)
Books of proverbs (these are very good for training judgment)
Books boiled down for GUToW
Pre-Boasian anthropology, especially emphasizing methods of analytical people-watching
Other pop-sci books on how attitude/motivation/etc. actually work (e.g. Drive, The Dopamine Handbook)

If there’s interest I may put together book lists for each type of morality and virtue, but I expect this is already quite a lot to ask.

For spergy children in particular, I’d recommend getting Tony Attwood’s books on the subject after reading my intro to Asperger’s post and the links in it. Also a good bit of advice I once saw is to find books about your location for tourists that explain the local etiquette, customs, and history.

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Charisma is inductive mindfulness

Thought for today: charisma is induced meditation. I.e. Causing the audience to enter a more meaningful state of mind by focusing their attention in ways that they could do for themselves through meditation, but without requiring that expenditure of willpower. You could read books on mindfulness and just induce those ideas, etc. to be charismatic. The metric for charisma is the feeling of importance. If your audience feels they are important, you are important, the idea being discussed is important, the product on the table is important, etc…and most importantly THIS PRESENT MOMENT is important, then you are being charismatic. This is the creation of a reality distortion field because by creating this feeling you are temporarily magnifying their attention on some preexisting value.

It should go without saying, but won’t, that different people may have different responses to the same phrase, visualization, etc., so projection may fail. However, I suspect that 95% of people respond to 95% of the same basic triggers the same way, so projection of basic meditative techniques will succeed about 90% of the time. For example, walking someone through the exercise of imagining themselves lying in a canoe in a placid lake will produce relaxation for almost anyone. On the other hand, playing God of War (again, a sort of meditation) will have a different effect on boys than girls. For a less theoretical treatment of charisma, see The Charisma Myth.

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Comparison of Asperger’s to adult children of alcoholics

Snippets & Ruminations In The New Anthropology #2
How I got Lost In Space At The Age of Four Years Old

[…]

From the first time I saw [Lost in Space] as a toddler, it exerted an eerie grip on me that precluded everything else. I was so rapt watching the show it was difficult for my parents to even speak to me when it was on. I still had a dummy in my mouth and took it out frequently to point to the screen when it was on during some part of the show that resonated so strongly in me I had to highlight it. My fascination was with the Robinsons. Not Dr. Smith. Even at this young age I felt Dr. Smith was like the people I saw around me in real life. He was nefarious. He had a forked tongue. It was impossible for him to say anything without actually working on another angle at the same time. The man was so crooked he must have had to screw on his pants in the morning. Dr. Smith I recognized as being similar to the adults I knew in the world around me. The Robinsons were something else altogether to me.

Something in the curves of their faces and their builds and their self-expression triggered a powerful response in me. This is how proper people talked. This is the way proper people communicated. This is how real men and women should comport themselves if they were healthy and normal. Everything about the Robinsons struck a chord in me. I saw them clearly as being of my own kind. Dr. Smith was part of The Others. Even at four years old, I saw this as clearly as you see the sun rise in the morning. When adults were speaking to me and attempting to charm me I could see several different ambiguous emotions in their faces at the same time just as Dr. Smith’s face looked when he talked.

I began to tell my mother that the Robinsons were “my real family” and that Penny and Will were my real “brother and sister.” I began to speak to Penny and Will as my imaginary friends. I told my mother that the Robinsons were going to come get me in the Jupiter-2 and take me back to their home planet so I “could be with my own real family,” a frequent delusion seen with “Asperger’s Syndrome” about being separated from one’s “real race.” My mother and father tried hard to laugh at my strange notions and obsession with this television show, certain it must be some kind of stage that is normal for a child to go through. It isn’t. It is distinctly bizarre and outlandish. These kinds of feelings of alienation as a child that young is a truly odd expression of development.

My parents never knew what kind of sadness came over me as I got older and began to understand more of the mechanics of my situation. The Robinsons were never coming to get me in the Jupiter-2. I was never going back to be with my own kind. I was to be left here, forever, amongst the Dr. Smiths. The Others had taken me from my people and I would never, ever be returning to my true home. I knew, even before I started school, that all of these people were Dr. Smiths. Their ways and the ways of my people, the Robinsons, were as far apart and incompatible as a bird in the air and a fish in the water. The Others were going to raise me as one of their own and they would make me compete against a society of Dr. Smiths. There was something about this that even at a very young age I knew was wrong.

Compare:

2019-09-04 17_26_53-Adult Children of Alcoholics_ Expanded Edition - Janet G. Woititz - Google Books2019-09-04 17_27_03-Adult Children of Alcoholics_ Expanded Edition - Janet G. Woititz - Google Books2019-09-04 17_27_21-Adult Children of Alcoholics_ Expanded Edition - Janet G. Woititz - Google Books2019-09-04 17_41_20-Adult Children of Alcoholics_ Expanded Edition - Janet G. Woititz - Google Books

The similarities are likely due to a shared perception of chaos in the social environment. In the same way that neurotypicals commonly describe aspies as robot-like, aspies commonly describe neurotypicals as druggie-like. I’ve found that I can actually empathize with people a great deal more if I pretend they’re on crack.

This desire for a simple, saccharine family life is, incidentally, why autistic people like My Little Pony.

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Definition of Boomerism

Boomerism: “A conceited refusal to accommodate one’s worldview to new information.” (“Accommodate” is used in the Piagetian sense here.)

E.g. A Boomer’s worldview is stuck in 1969. Vox’s worldview and writing have not changed since January 2017.

A person without accommodating faculties relies entirely on counterfactual reasoning for assimilation, i.e. “how does this prove my existing models of the world?”. (Fox prefers: “In which way does this [piece of evidence] show that I’m right?”) Just as all incorrectness is subversive and all deception is protectively insulating, all conceits are ego-protecting in origin and function. The strength of the conceit is proportional to ego investment in the self-serving narrative, and I have a hunch that loss aversion also plays a multiplying role. So if a person has X ego investment in their financial situation and a conceit has allowed them to make Y dollars, only a loss of 3*X*Y dollars will cause them to question it.

I found a description of a bias in investing that explains this in a bit more detail. These screenshots are taken from here.

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Just imagine this bias inflated out of all proportion because the upside of growing up in the biggest economic boom in history means that the factor Y in the formula 3*X*Y is huge.

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The future has seen us, and we’re beautiful

Here are the two links from the top of this little rant:

https://www.teramind.co/landing/1/employee-surveillance-software/

https://resources.infosecinstitute.com/the-future-of-employee-monitoring/#gref

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The need to distinguish charity and subsidy

This is an adaptation of a Discord discussion in response to this tweet:

Somebody (whose permission to use their name I didn’t request) asked:

Mr. Pera, could you comment on this? Does this clash with Christianity’s idea of charity?

Yes.

Does Christianity somehow invert the status hierarchy, or is this not applicable?

Yes, explicitly. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Foot_washing#Background

Or does a connection with God lift you one above the hierarchy?

It doesn’t, but it introduces salvation of the soul as the more salient value.

The important follow-up questions are

1) Is it empirically correct that Christian charity produces more beggars, and
2) If so, is that an acceptable cost for accomplishing its purpose, is there an Aristotelian mean for charity, or should we discard it as a form of maladaptive cuckoldry?

I’d argue that 1) no, and 2) if God tells you to burn the world, you do it (after asking for clarification, verifying his identity as best as possible, checking this against the pattern of his previous commands, etc. due diligence type stuff). But I think Zero HP Lovecraft is being overly analytical and underly empirical. I’d offer the following as compelling empirical evidence against Zero HP Lovecraft’s insistence that charity incentivizes dependency:

Update: MM provides notes.

First video:

-people with happy and productive lives, who are not isolated and who have deep social ties, do not get addicted.

-you “bond” with cocaine, gambling, wtvr, in place of a normal thingy

-A core part of addiction is not being able to stand to be present in your life (nothing to be present for)

-We’ve traded connections for stuff.

-Make addicts feel “you arent alone, we love you” instead of threats and punishments

-The opposite of addiction is not sobriety, it is connection.
(Sobrity = connection IMO but whatever…)
Second video:

-We are making a society where it is harder to be present in (thus setting us up for mass unhappiness, addiction, etc.)

Very very. true

Unfullfilling jobs, lives spent running after useless shit, “socialization” through souless social media (like this right now…), divorce, lack of exercise and nutrition.

(And of course, corporations BUILD addictive conditions to create captive user bases. Social media, sugar water, fast food, pills. Thats big business!)

Of course increasing amounts of people will want to leave reality by taking drugs. This reality fucking sucks.

That reminds me, I need to announce that the Discord is under new management, which is to say its original management. I’m still microblogging there pretty much every day, but MM is once again the admin.

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Modern leftism as esoteric Hitlerism

iSteve post referenced is here: http://www.unz.com/isteve/nyt-editor-after-failure-of-our-russia-mania-plan-a-weve-launched-our-racism-mania-plan-b/

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