1. Write one or two sentences describing how you believe other people currently perceive you.
Those of recent acquaintance think pretty highly of me and my social skills. But I’m not working through a self-help book to congratulate myself. I want to change the opinions of the people close to me and who matter to me: my family (particularly my parents). If nothing else, they’re the ones I have to deal with most often. If you got some alcohol in them and asked what they thought of me, they’d say I’m a sort-of bright, dorky, confused kid who “just needs to come up with a plan.”
This is merely projection; that’s what they are. In reality, I’m technically in the “very gifted” category, no longer dorky, no longer confused, and I have a detailed plan that accounts for several contingencies to boot.
2. Write one or two sentences describing how you’d like to be perceived by others
I want to be the tribal wiseman, the lovable, eccentric, ingenious, occasionally terrifying shaman who hears voices on the wind and growling in the bowels of the earth. I want to be the guy people turn to when shit hits the fan, or when they need fireworks for an eleventy-first birthday, and otherwise left alone with my books and arcana.
3. List three of your behaviors or characteristics you’d like to change.
I don’t want to be physically weaker or slower than anyone I know, which is an unfortunate side effect of running out of money for martial arts. I want to accept humanity for what it is without being so bitter about it, yet without tolerating its sins. And I don’t want my mind (my mental processes, my memories, my emotions, my knowledge) to be such a tangled mess. I want a mind characterized by clarity, diligence, consistency, and righteousness.
4. List three of new behaviors or characteristics you’d like to adopt
I just did, so to avoid losing focus I’ll just sum up. I want to be seen as
- Emotionally stable
And it wouldn’t hurt a bit if those perceptions were accurate, too.