Here I got busy for a couple of days and forgot I have all these tricks for busting out quick posts.
Women are also more inclined than men to see criticism of an idea they have expressed as personal criticism and react angrily to it. Does someone telling you “that’s a stupid idea” make you angry and feel personally attacked? Well, then you probably ARE angry and your speech and facial expressions accurately reflect that.
Now, I’ve been in more than a few business meetings with women, and certainly some have spoken in a way that I would describe as “Oh Sweet Darwin, get to the fucking point before we evolve into a new species and all of this becomes irrelevant”. But plenty of them speak normally, without either anger or apology, and I’ve noticed that those tend to be the more competent women. No drama, no theatrics, no uptalk, just normal, straightforward communication.
Learning to talk
Context is Jennifer Lawrence bitching about how it’s so hard to be a woman in a MAN’s world.
Speaking of which, don’t forget to get your Evil White Patriarchy ID card renewed before the fifth or you could lose your status as a member in good standing. I know the process is annoying, but just think about the privileges you could lose. You could become as hopeless, downtrodden, and miserable as a woman, like Jennifer Lawrence. Don’t take that chance.
1. Vox is right about the solipsism re: facial contortions. People who are out of their element and exerting significant mental effort forget to control their face and tone. 2/3 women are out of their element simply from F-T mismatch (MBTI, feeling vs. thinking). When called on it, most people won’t admit it because pride balks under pressure.
2. Stress and high pressure make a huge difference. The female response to DANGER signals in the brain is a lot stronger than the male response. Testosterone acts as some kind of heat sink here, turning anxiety into focus and stress into anger. I have an idea how one of those probably works but this isn’t the time or place.
3. The girl is projecting her particular problems on all girls. While there are many general truths about gender differences in the realms of physical fitness, emotions, and instincts, there is little effective sexual dimorphism at the cognitive level within 2SD of the mean (99% of the population).
4. The female penchant for dissembling (talking around a problem rather than directly at it) only kicks in when they’re talking about people, child-rearing, sex, etc. If the subject is improving the house, a man and woman of similar MBTI and intelligence will sound exactly the same.