I will preface this by saying that all neanderthal-influenced people (whites and Asians) express a bit of both. These are ideal archetypes.
Communication between two or more neurotypicals is characterized by two objectives, 1) the overall production of goodfeelz and 2) establishing social rankings for the pyramidal distribution of goodfeelz. The former is why badthink is frowned upon unless it is expressed through acceptable forms of humor: one is perceived as squandering the commonweal. The latter produces hyperfocus on nonverbal cues to determine what the other members of the group are feeling and how strongly, and this is particularly true of submissives who are more likely to be rewarded or punished for behavior by dominants. I figured this out from listening to a lot of the ATF Show at work, because it’s the usual thing in slow motion. I recommend it for aspies who want to study non-cucked NT social skills. Nate is constantly shaping Viidad’s opinions with his approval and disapproval, but he only has access to audio to do this so the emotional bandwidth is low. Dominant conditioning of submissives is typically amplified by body language because this is the primary information source for mirror neurons.
Conversation between two aspies is characterized by long attention spans and density of information content. An aspie will often stop talking mid-lecture simply because he feels he isn’t communicating enough information per second, and it’s not uncommon for us to apologize for communicating slowly or poorly. I believe this is due to hard-coded instincts to rank ourselves socially according to eugenic traits like intelligence and facial symmetry, rather than socially dominant traits like confidence and aggression. Tony Attwood says the worst thing you can call someone with Asperger’s is “stupid”. This would be analogous to calling a neurotypical person a “creep”, i.e. a person of very low sociosexual rank who ought not to breed. (Perhaps due to my Christian beliefs and unusual perspective on intelligence, I have the eugenic instincts but not the secular humanism.)
As a notable example of these distinctions: when neurotypicals move to a new home, they quickly absorb the regional accent but not the verbal language. When aspies move to a new home, they pick up the technical vocab and slang very quickly but not the accent.
A piece of advice that gets floated by a lot of job coaches for aspies is to get work requests in writing if possible, because we need very clear instructions. This works in practice and follows from the belief that being overly literal and lacking imagination are symptoms of Asperger’s. This theory is untrue- aspies are far superior at lateral thinking- and I have a different explanation for why written instructions work. (That is, when you can get them- most of the time NTs will simply express disgust and contempt at the request and are unlikely to put in the short-term effort for the long-term payoff.) Neurotypical conversation, entertainment, and hobbies are so devoid of semantic content that it’s a miracle they know anything at all. And yet, they have a remarkable ability to absorb common sense knowledge despite the de facto prohibition on speaking it aloud (which apparently demonstrates weakness to them- definition is capitulation for normies, but not for aspies).
I believe NTs do their thinking in the same holistic “guess and check” intuition that I rely on- observation and induction- where the “guess” portion is produced by theory of mind calculations (“how would I interview job candidates?”) and the “check” portion is supplied by the opinions of socially dominant individuals (“the interviewer didn’t like that answer”). This produces in-group consensus of opinion without actually exchanging any information. Thus, a lot of neurotypicals are extremely lazy in communication. They simply expect you to guess the right answer, and they figure they’ll smooth out the kinks over time with social cues. When they have to communicate job requirements to aspies, this works exactly as well as you’d think. Getting job requirements in writing forces them to communicate the semantic information properly, rather than relying on your ability to read their minds.
NT: (Angry) You aren’t doing your job.
Aspie: (Confused) You haven’t told me what my job is.
NT: (Contempt) You’re stupid.
Aspie: (Upset) What? That doesn’t make sense!
NT: (Better) Good, we’re getting somewhere. If you weren’t stupid you’d already know.
Aspie: (Sad) Fine, I guess I’m stupid then. Please tell me what my job is.
NT: (Disgust) There’s no hope for you. Leaves to complain to another NT and decide whether to fire Aspie.
Aspie: (Neurotic) I still don’t know what my job is!
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had this conversation in various forms. I’d estimate that I’ve lost four jobs for this reason alone. It’s more of a problem in disorganized businesses (either because they’re smaller or because they’re poorly managed or both), in low-functioning industries (like when I worked at the strip club), and in industries that are more strongly dominated by neurotypicals (law vs. IT).