Three axes of socializing: Smalltalk, Signalling, and Sperging

This post breaks socializing down into its major components, as defined by their psychological purposes and societal functions.

Smalltalk is the exchange of emotions for its own sake, and typically revolves around the topics that interest ordinary people: in-group gossip, sports, celebrities, entertainment, food, and intoxicants. Signalling is Framing for the purpose of social positioning, and can be broken down into virtue signalling, sociosexual status signalling, social class signalling, and political identity signalling. Sperging is the exchange of information for its own sake, typically revolves around random esoterica, and is marked by spontaneous, lengthy soliloquy.

A person heavily predisposed to one sort of socializing may engage in another style in service of their primary social style. For instance, a sociosexual Gamma will often sperg for the purpose of signalling. Here are some examples of the other five possible pairings:

-A gamer will often sperg for the purpose of small talk. E.g. “What are your top five favorite animes?”
-A PUA blog commenter on the spectrum will often signal for the purpose of sperging. E.g. “I negged fifty girls yesterday because sarging is Alpha and I am an Alpha, therefore I sarge.”
-A clueless striver (alternatively, a Neurotic) will often signal for the purpose of small talk. E.g. “Have you seen Hamilton yet? It was. So. Amazing!”
-A programmer will often small talk for the purpose of sperging. E.g. “I am talking to you because networking is important for professional success, which is an important idea that I learned from this book that you definitely should read.” *Hands book to victim, unsolicited.*
-A socialite will often small talk for the purpose of signalling. E.g. “I had a burger at that new place, right? Oh my God, man.” (For some reason this particular phrasing is very among Alpha males: “I ate X. Oh my God.” Seriously, listen for it.)

I’d advise using this to rank people as low, mid, and high on each of these axes. For example, Koanic is high on sperging, mid on signalling, and low on smalltalk.

Advertisements

About Aeoli Pera

Maybe do this later?
This entry was posted in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink.

17 Responses to Three axes of socializing: Smalltalk, Signalling, and Sperging

  1. Ophiuchus says:

    “For some reason this particular phrasing is very common among Alpha males: ‘I ate X. Oh my God.'”

  2. Koanic says:

    I ate Communion. Oh my God.

  3. purpletigerbot says:

    Aeoli blogs(signals) for the purpose of sperging? OR blogs(spergs) for the purpose of signaling?

  4. Edenist Whackjob says:

    How does it map to Gervais?

    • Aeoli Pera says:

      I tried to map it but couldn’t. I believe the reason for this is that socializing is categorically different from the sorts of communication Rao describes. Powertalk, babytalk, gametalk, etc. are economical, socializing is psychological.

  5. mobiuswolf says:

    I’m curious about the map, too. You have any idea of percentages?
    Clueless striver seems to be a big egg on the bottom. I hate that. Oh My God!
    That illuminates my grandson’s (8) sudden affinity for the phrase. Thanks for that.

  6. Thal Melon says:

    As a guy with azzberger-tism and abject disinterest in socializing, this is the kind of post I appreciate and find insightful. Keep up the good work so I don’t have to.

    :DDD

  7. Thal Melon says:

    How I rank myself:

    Sperging: high.
    Smalltalk: medium.
    Signalling: low.

  8. Pingback: On Oppositional Defiant “Disorder” | Aeoli Pera

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s