The 1% effort happiness shortcut

Just as 20% of your efforts yields 80% of the effects, I believe there’s a 1% in every domain that yields 20% of potential results. But it takes wisdom to know what that 1% is. I’ll give you what I think that 1% is in the Happiness stage of the simplified success flowchart:

Interests -> Energy -> Value -> Relationships -> Momentum -> Framing -> Focus -> Mastery/Flow -> Happiness -> Success

1. Pray the serenity prayer each morning.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time. Enjoying one moment at a time. Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace. Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it. Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will. That I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him forever in the next.

Amen.

-Reinhold Niebuhr

2. Do the five-minute gratitude exercise.

Here’s the exercise: “Write down three things that went well each day and their causes every night for one week. In addition, provide a causal explanation for each good thing.”

That’s it. We spend tens of thousands of dollars on expensive electronics, homes, automobiles and vacations hoping for a 10% boost. There is a free alternative, and it works.

In a study of exercise’s effectiveness by Martin Seligman, participants were asked to follow those exact instructions for just one week.

After one week they were 2% happier than before, but in follow-up tests, their happiness kept on increasing, from 5% at one month, to 9% at six months. All this, even though they were only instructed to journal for one week. Participants enjoyed the exercise so much, that they just kept on doing it on their own.

Amit Amin
Three Good Things, A Small Gratitude Exercise for a Large Boost of Happiness

3. Cultivate the faith of Job.

This one probably doesn’t apply to you if you don’t experience a lot of negative emotions, but it may be the most important of all if negative emotions are a big part of your life. It depends on your situation.

The lesson of the book of Job is even if God takes away everything you have for the lolz…it doesn’t matter, it changes nothing, and God is still great and good because we’re so small that our lives don’t really matter. It won’t make sense to you why this is comforting if you’ve never been in a really bad place, but it might save your life someday when you’re in the belly of the whale and all hope is lost. Maybe write it down and tuck it in your bug-out bag or pack it with your rice.

13 Now there was a day when his sons and daughters were eating and drinking wine in their oldest brother’s house, 14 and there came a messenger to Job and said, “The oxen were plowing and the donkeys feeding beside them, 15 and the Sabeans fell upon them and took them and struck down the servants[c] with the edge of the sword, and I alone have escaped to tell you.” 16 While he was yet speaking, there came another and said, “The fire of God fell from heaven and burned up the sheep and the servants and consumed them, and I alone have escaped to tell you.” 17 While he was yet speaking, there came another and said, “The Chaldeans formed three groups and made a raid on the camels and took them and struck down the servants with the edge of the sword, and I alone have escaped to tell you.” 18 While he was yet speaking, there came another and said, “Your sons and daughters were eating and drinking wine in their oldest brother’s house, 19 and behold, a great wind came across the wilderness and struck the four corners of the house, and it fell upon the young people, and they are dead, and I alone have escaped to tell you.”

20 Then Job arose and tore his robe and shaved his head and fell on the ground and worshiped. 21 And he said, “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked shall I return. The Lord gave, and the Lord has taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord.”

22 In all this Job did not sin or charge God with wrong.

Keep in mind, this was before God sent his son to die on our behalf. The pagan stoicism here requires a decidedly tragic shift in mindset which, like the conviction necessary to kill, you hopefully will never need.

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16 Responses to The 1% effort happiness shortcut

  1. Akuma says:

    Anyone have any guesses to the Geographic locations our Alt-sphere symbol corresponds with?

  2. Solid says:

    Sorta Related as your post includes percentages. I witnessed the gas pump event again today. I (possibly we) stand corrected. More vehicles than could be tracked (I lost track at ten) did the same thing today. Including more than enough with children on board. Its a safety issue first and foremost, as well as illegal, but the percentage is too high and the P value too low to ignore the cars not igniting as a statstically significant event. I even watched one man place his lit cigarette on a snowmobile engine. Consider this a good day for science and escaping gammatude.

    • Aeoli Pera says:

      I’m reminded of when I complain about people texting as they drive. It’s near-constant (probably the ratio of “eyes on the road time” to “time driven” is under 50%), but somehow normies only crash occasionally. It really does make one think of neurotypicals as autistic social savants.

  3. a says:

    >Just as 20% of your efforts yields 80% of the effects, I believe there’s a 1% in every domain that yields 20% of potential results.

    The One Thing by Gary Keller.

    >Everything else

    Agree 100 percent, especially about gratitude. It stops many negative effects of both advancing in the hierarchy, and losing/stagnating.

    • Aeoli Pera says:

      >The One Thing by Gary Keller.

      A rare miss here, this is a completely different concept.

      >Agree 100 percent, especially about gratitude. It stops many negative effects of both advancing in the hierarchy, and losing/stagnating.

      The Happiness Hypothesis is a great collection of ideas but my intent was to provide answers for both Trump-level Alphas and Omegas rotting away in prisons.

  4. Big Mike says:

    These 3 activities are a decent distillation of the 12 step program of AA, which takes some of the most miserable, maladjusted, and often unbelieving people on the planet and turns them into happy, helpful, and spiritual citizens if they are willing to follow the steps and rely on God.

    The program essentially converts one from an r strategist to a K strategist, even as God removes the difficulties from one’s life. Finding a greater reliance on God and allowing personal wants to fade away is a blessing.

    • Aeoli Pera says:

      I have a lot of respect for the 12-step programs. They get a bad rep because almost everybody in the lower classes is a low-church atheist/pagan anymore (muh weed lmao), and that’s the target demographic.

  5. Koanic says:

    What you are really saying is that you live in an atomized civilization that demands as the price of winning that one plaster over the hollow in one’s heart with a smile, lest everyone else’s facade collapse as well.

    • Aeoli Pera says:

      Also known as M0. But no, that’s not what I’m saying in particular because happiness comes four steps after relationships in this model. On the other hand, I advise reasonable opportunism. If you can go from 0% to 20% happy before making any friends, I say do it.

  6. a says:

    Energy -> Framing/Mindset -> Focus -> Momentum -> Mastery/Flow -> Success -> Value

    Relationships are outside of main loop:
    Relationships -> Happiness -> Success

    Of course complex inter-relations. IE: Value can mean better relationships (esp with women).
    But increasing quality and number of relationships can also improve your value without you having to increase it with the success grind. Your success grind must put you in the position to do both if you want to be the standard big man.

    • Aeoli Pera says:

      Finally, a topic we can sperg about without zero guilt and no calories!

      Agreements:

      1. Relationships are outside of main loop [changed my mind on this, you’re right]
      2. Relationships -> Happiness -> Success
      3. Energy comes first. [Should add Health and Hope as sole prerequisites.]
      4. Focus precedes Mastery/Flow, Mastery/Flow precedes Success.

      Disagreements:
      1. Value comes last. [I believe perceived value is what causes people to invest in each other, which brings them together and more importantly keeps them together. “Family” is value, but typically it’ll be something like “Interesting person, makes me laugh, etc.”.]
      2. Focus precedes momentum. [I believe most people build momentum through high energy and robust social networks, despite lack of focus. And, I believe focus is bad strategy if you don’t have an oversupply of energy (momentum).]

      >Of course complex inter-relations. IE: Value can mean better relationships (esp with women).

      Yeah, feedback loops galore. But as far as strategy goes, we can generalize and then correct.

      >Your success grind must put you in the position to do both if you want to be the standard big man.

      I think I’d better shoot for the Magician angle.

      • a says:

        >I believe perceived value is what causes people to invest in each other, which brings them together and more importantly keeps them together. “Family” is value, but typically it’ll be something like “Interesting person, makes me laugh, etc.”.

        We don’t disagree on that. I suppose it should be specified that I am talking meta success which is made up of many iterations of the success cycle. And yes, there is intrinsic value and competency which sets many people into motion.

        >2. Focus precedes momentum. [I believe most people build momentum through high energy and robust social networks, despite lack of focus. And, I believe focus is bad strategy if you don’t have an oversupply of energy (momentum).]

        I meant Focus specifically as: The cutting out of most or all arbitrary and sub-optimal action and working a MINIMUM of 4 hours per day on your most important task.

        I meant Momentum specifically as: The neurochemical (dopaminergic ) drive that makes task completion EASY after one achieves a prolonged period of succesful focus (More than an entire day for the ‘real thing’). I imagine its flow without the mastery.

        Im not talking about meta-momentum per se (Though they are closely related). I think that’s our difference here.

        BTW this is something I actually enjoy to ‘sperg’ about. Interesting. I guess that’s because I see it as being close to the highest of utility possible. So I’ll lay it out.

        Energy -The currency of success.
        Framing/Mindset- Determines worldview for effective (or ineffective) energy use.
        Focus -> Effective energy use.
        Momentum ->The neurological manifestation of mildly self-sustaining effective energy use.
        Mastery/Flow -> HIGHLY proficient (lightly self sustaining) energy use after required ‘deliberate practice’.
        Success -> Reaching the purpose of your effective energy use.
        Value -> The reward for the effective energy use towards a worthy aim (With the connotations of increased: 1. Social status 2. Future effectivity of energy use and goal choice 3. Neurological changes that re-wires your brain so that you act in a manner that is perceived as higher status, usually cross-culturally.)

        ^Hey that’s pretty good, m8. Cardio DOES work.

        >I think I’d better shoot for the Magician angle.

        I agree.

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