“I shouldn’t have to X” or, become an absolute loser at everything with This One Simple Trick

The formula “I shouldn’t have to X just to get Y” can come in many forms:

  • “I shouldn’t have to be an asshole to just to have my girlfriend not cheat on me.”
  • “I shouldn’t have to be in the top 20% of incomes just to afford healthy food that my grandparents bought for pennies.”
  • “I shouldn’t have to learn sales just to convince people I’m better at engineering than a pretender who doesn’t know anything and spends all his time networking.”
  • “I shouldn’t have to conquer the entire world and defeat Ganondorf just to have a public square that isn’t filled with soul-sucking narcissistic P-zombies.”
  • “I shouldn’t have to exterminate all of global Jewry just to get into art school.”

This is how losers let themselves off the hook for not wanting to pay full price for what they want. They apparently think complaining about the unreasonable price of things that normal people used to get for cheap will make their tyrannical societies give them a discount, as if there’s no reason the price changed except they got greedy (but apparently not so greedy that they won’t give discounts to people they hate?). They also apparently think things like political representation, wholesome families, based and red-pilled religious institutions, and civilizations above the African standard are things that just pop out of the ground. That’s obviously bullshit. You think the fruits of Western Civilization are “normal”? The only reason your grandparents had everything in 1955 is because it was paid for by their ancestors who were all winners and didn’t give a shit how reasonable the price was. They saw a change they wanted, counted the cost in blood, sweat, and tears, and then they went and fucking paid for it.

There’s no reason you can’t be a winner, biologically. All of your ancestors were winners. Autistic? Quadriplegic? Still not impossible. If you made a billion dollars there would be 10s lined up outside your hospital room with penis pumps to harvest the seed from your catatonic, limp-dicked retard body for their designer test tube babies. Your mere existence is proof the human genome saw fit to spend an enormous number of calories taking the chance that your particular configuration of genes would be a winner. The same reasoning can be applied to making a billion dollars. Anyway, the point is life isn’t magic and you can focus your efforts to get some of the things you want, just not all of them. Obviously. You definitely can’t get all of them at once for free from a magical charismatic leader, which is what losers wait around for, and why cults exist. This video makes the point better, which is why I downloaded the audio of it to my phone and listened to it probably 200 times:

Overcoming this “I shouldn’t have to X” mental block is necessary but not sufficient for becoming a winner. It’ll get you 80% of the way there, since 80% of people will spend the rest of their lives complaining about shit they shouldn’t have to do instead of just doing it (because they’re absolute losers at everything). For example, there’s a big difference between being willing to put in the work and consciously choosing to do what will actually work.

Here’s your new formula:

1. Decide what you really want. Take your time, and do Jordan Peterson’s self-authoring program if you don’t know where to start. I’ve taken the time to try it and it’s very good, Peterson’s personal character notwithstanding.
2. Judge what thing, specifically, you need to get first. Be realistic.
3. Figure out what kind of person you’ll have to become to have it.
4. Decide whether you’d be happy as that person. If yes*, resolve to pay the price.
5. Estimate the cost in time, money, etc. to do what work become that person.
6. Set a goal, brainstorm things you could do to get there, and make a plan.
7. Pay the cost, i.e. do the plan (trust the plan). When costs come up you didn’t expect, pay those too. Never shy away from the cost of something that’s necessary unless it’s potentially a moral issue. If you can’t afford it, brainstorm 20 ways you could become able to afford it, and do all of them. If it isn’t necessary, why are you wasting your resources on it? When it’s a moral issue, do steps 3 and 4 again. And be open-minded, because there’s a lot more to morality than what tickles your pickle. You may instinctively feel Game or realpolitik or war are against your ideals, but they’re a part of life and winners don’t shy away from hard realities.

I shouldn’t have to spend an hour repeating a boring point over and over just to be around people who understand the basic facts of life, but that’s something I want and I do have to do X to get Y, so I did.

*If no, return to step 1 and figure out what it is you really want that made you think you wanted the other thing. E.g. Maybe you didn’t want a fast-paced real estate career, you just wanted a pretty wife and a sense of accomplishment. You can get those much more easily in other ways.

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8 Responses to “I shouldn’t have to X” or, become an absolute loser at everything with This One Simple Trick

  1. Heaviside says:

    >“I shouldn’t have to be an asshole to just to have my girlfriend not cheat on me.”

    If your spouse cheats on you, that’s a moral failing on their part, and it can happen even if you are an asshole. If any guy thinks that his game is so tight that no girl would ever cheat on him, he better pray that he doesn’t run into the kind of woman who knows how to exploit hubris.

    • Aeoli Pera says:

      Sin is the way of the world. Ref. https://aeolipera.wordpress.com/2020/04/01/the-utility-of-beating-your-wife-at-random/

      What begs explanation is that spouses sometimes don’t cheat.

      • Heaviside says:

        Let’s say that you got married. Do you think that your spouse isn’t going to be able to pick up on your basic assumption that she doesn’t care about you and has no moral standards? And your assumption that she is so helpless that you can substitute some psychological manipulation for her absent conscience? Is anybody who thinks this way actually happy? Do they get married just for the tax benefits?

        • Aeoli Pera says:

          Can we skip to the point of real contention? I’m planning to marry an extremely religious Christian girl and I’m not going to beat her at random. I also don’t have to be convinced that other minds exist and have to make their own moral decisions. I don’t believe this contradicts the observation that we can make some decisions easier for them and some decisions harder for them by acting in a way that creates a perceived incentive structure (or lack thereof due to chaos and confusion, as R-strategists do intentionally). The ultimate decision is up to them but we should make reasonable efforts to make the moral choice easier, as is appropriate to their sense of personal responsibility and level of ability to understand the choice. It’s inappropriate for example to treat children as adults or unwise people as wise people.

          Did I miss anything?

  2. Boneflour says:

    I need to find the story of the man who found a bag of gold in the woods, but if he told the king, the king would want dat money.

    He knew his wife would blab, so he set up a bunch of pranks in the woods and took baby for a stroll. “There are pancakes on the trees!” “Yes baby, it rains pancakes in this part of the woods” etc.

    They go to visit the king, the wife goes “…and then we saw elephant eggs, and talking turtles, and a magical dog gave us a bag of gold!”

    And the king goes, “I’m sure you did, honey.” (“Cute wife. Little loopy, though…”)

    And everyone lives happily ever after.

    Anyway, I like this post. Great post.

  3. Boneflour says:


    That’s pretty close. Mine’s from a years old memory of a kid’s book of tales but this one covers it.

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